Those Sci-Fi Dating Options
I'm willing to bet that over the course of the past five days, I've lost as many pounds. I'm slim and looking good, and I'm pretty sure I can see my abs. Someone joked to me today that the week-long depression and weight loss is nature's way of helping us look sexy for the rebound. To be honest, I'd want to do me if I were someone else.
Which leads me to the title of this post.
(You know where this is going, right?)
You know how people say that someone is "In love with himself?" I think that if I had the option to clone myself, I'd probably simply opt to date me (errr ... me 2.0). I know what I like, and I'm willing to give it to myself. I know what I'm thinking, so hopefully Two would, too. No failure to communicate, no sad loss when you part ways (just clone yourself again!). Hell, with both of you working on the things you like, you could double your income and productivity.
The downside is the loss of the things that make normal relationships worthwhile. The highs and the lows of dating someone that you can't predict, keeping you on your toes. The variance in personality makes relationships fun - because you have to be active to keep the relationship alive. If you know what to expect, or don't try to stay in tune, it's hard to make it work. Because you aren't making it work - you're letting it go.
If you truly love someone, and I believe this even now - especially now! - you will want only one thing for them: to be happy. Every person has a right to be happy - and a right to seek that happiness however they see fit. But in a relationship, you have a responsibility to the other person; to letting them know what you are thinking.
A long time ago, I didn't do that and it bit us in the ass. Recently, he didn't do that and it didn't just bite us in the ass this time; it flat out cut us down.
If I could recommend to anyone reading this blog one thing about relationships, it is to be wholly, truly and often painfully honest with your partner. Talking is the only way to stay in tune. Otherwise, you might just be better off with the clone.
Which leads me to the title of this post.
(You know where this is going, right?)
You know how people say that someone is "In love with himself?" I think that if I had the option to clone myself, I'd probably simply opt to date me (errr ... me 2.0). I know what I like, and I'm willing to give it to myself. I know what I'm thinking, so hopefully Two would, too. No failure to communicate, no sad loss when you part ways (just clone yourself again!). Hell, with both of you working on the things you like, you could double your income and productivity.
The downside is the loss of the things that make normal relationships worthwhile. The highs and the lows of dating someone that you can't predict, keeping you on your toes. The variance in personality makes relationships fun - because you have to be active to keep the relationship alive. If you know what to expect, or don't try to stay in tune, it's hard to make it work. Because you aren't making it work - you're letting it go.
If you truly love someone, and I believe this even now - especially now! - you will want only one thing for them: to be happy. Every person has a right to be happy - and a right to seek that happiness however they see fit. But in a relationship, you have a responsibility to the other person; to letting them know what you are thinking.
A long time ago, I didn't do that and it bit us in the ass. Recently, he didn't do that and it didn't just bite us in the ass this time; it flat out cut us down.
If I could recommend to anyone reading this blog one thing about relationships, it is to be wholly, truly and often painfully honest with your partner. Talking is the only way to stay in tune. Otherwise, you might just be better off with the clone.
posted by Dave at 1:00:00 PM
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